tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.comments2023-03-03T05:30:12.384-07:00A Mad Girl's Love SongVictoria Meredythehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17609708583015114207noreply@blogger.comBlogger39125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-77342205398969431292017-02-23T15:37:28.776-07:002017-02-23T15:37:28.776-07:00Awesome Feminist videos on youtube !!! http://bi...Awesome Feminist videos on youtube !!! http://bit.ly/videos2cAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-8493042114077187482014-01-14T08:40:03.797-07:002014-01-14T08:40:03.797-07:00Hi Victoria,
My name is Alex and I just had a qui...Hi Victoria,<br /><br />My name is Alex and I just had a quick question about your blog. Please email me back at your earliest convenience!<br />Alexandra@barnard.edu<br />Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-79383474779153101052011-11-27T14:36:06.853-07:002011-11-27T14:36:06.853-07:00Theres something I would like to say to the women ...Theres something I would like to say to the women who read this blog that I wanted to say to all women. There are people out there who want us to belive that we are victems when we were born woman; we are victims of possible sexual assult, we are victims of society, and we are victems becuse we are slaves to our emotions. They want us to think we are victims of materialism, our menstral cycles, our love of children, we are victems of phisical limitation and victims of our own dreams. In this state of mind men are conquering criminals and women are sentanced to suffer from it. But I say no WE ARE NOT VICTIMS BECUSE WE ARE BORN WOMEN. We are strong from our feminity we make our own path and even if they want us to believe that, we wont. We are empowerd by our selves and we wont let anything get in our ways. As much as there are people who want to believe and everyone else to belive that we are victims we are not. We are female and we are strong becuse of it. That is femnism to me. Even if this puritan nation functions under the assumption that women will suffer from their limitations, we refuse, becuse we are not victims of our gender, we are goddesses. I only hope that one day everyone else will understand that.CelestialSunhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17333674568290925492noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-69289771687125358712011-06-16T19:15:45.442-06:002011-06-16T19:15:45.442-06:00I always love reading your writing, Victoria. Stig...I always love reading your writing, Victoria. Stigmatizing the traumatized, as you put it, is usually the result of alienating that which you do not understand, and also feeling alienated from someone's trauma... I loved hearing about your "fantasies". They sound like an idealreality... who wouldn't want that? don't forget Victory is your name!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-23964825224288432062011-02-23T18:10:09.734-07:002011-02-23T18:10:09.734-07:00Feminism is the greatest thing ever!Feminism is the greatest thing ever!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-49465675664915637832011-02-05T19:17:40.814-07:002011-02-05T19:17:40.814-07:00Victoria, You are on to something here.
You may b...Victoria, You are on to something here.<br /><br />You may be interested in studying the Theology of the Body.<br /><br />Peace be with you as you continue your journey.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-85009204037610942132011-02-05T10:00:08.184-07:002011-02-05T10:00:08.184-07:00Parental abuse is so hard to overcome. Using your ...Parental abuse is so hard to overcome. Using your metaphor, they (parents) seem to belong in our "house." They were there the day it was built. They left their voices in it long before we had language. Gaining the strength to exorcise that type of ghost takes years of empowerment and the realization that your body was a gift to you and has nothing to do with them.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-69196517550518557132011-02-05T08:58:12.870-07:002011-02-05T08:58:12.870-07:00I really like this blog and I like the way you rel...I really like this blog and I like the way you relate our bodies to our homes THANKSUnknownhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13325781826103810290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-15009035508922155272011-01-30T13:56:46.778-07:002011-01-30T13:56:46.778-07:00Sometimes some of us feel mad, insane, not quite r...Sometimes some of us feel mad, insane, not quite right in the head because the world is such a not right place. Sometimes the first step in finding help for ourselves, support, coping strategies (that are healthy) is to admit that we don't feel grounded or sane. Not as a way to pathologize our truths but as a way to highlight how very...discordant they seem when placed in close proximity to the truths of others...who, although they seem to be "sane", may actually be the truly INsane ones.Dark Daughtahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461439416312772862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-42604334291610886352011-01-30T13:53:21.840-07:002011-01-30T13:53:21.840-07:00"Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it..."Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare." - Audre Lorde<br /><br />She was right. Very grounded and thoughtful of you to share these insights. Thanks you.Dark Daughtahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07461439416312772862noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-37148413500762282632011-01-30T13:47:05.089-07:002011-01-30T13:47:05.089-07:00This is beautiful. I needed this. Thank you.This is beautiful. I needed this. Thank you.Autodidactpoethttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16860752713734930046noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-41734145139211695352011-01-30T12:42:43.840-07:002011-01-30T12:42:43.840-07:00I love this. Thank you. -CassieI love this. Thank you. -CassieAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-20865227138387518772011-01-29T23:40:18.785-07:002011-01-29T23:40:18.785-07:00Hi. How are you? Why mad girls? Why not clever gir...Hi. How are you? Why mad girls? Why not clever girls?<br /> <br />Did you ever hear that Quran let muslims to beat their wives? I have a article about it. for reading just click <a href="http://anti-efsha.blogspot.com/2011/01/wife-beating-is-not-allowed-in-islam-in.html" rel="nofollow">here </a> <br /><br />Good luckSearcherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04723202091463971258noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-74943083202757710802011-01-29T18:32:40.950-07:002011-01-29T18:32:40.950-07:00I don't think I've heard you say "dis...I don't think I've heard you say "disordered." I personally have decided to firmly grasp the title of mentally ill in an effort to dispel the stigma from myself and others if that makes sense. What I don't like referring to myself as is "victim".Jess S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/03084451346103811309noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-38958095617395476892011-01-22T08:47:35.912-07:002011-01-22T08:47:35.912-07:00Victoria, this is excellent. As Katie said, you n...Victoria, this is excellent. As Katie said, you nailed it. Roe vs. Wade is indeed more than just pro life vs. pro choice. And you explained why perfectly.<br /><br />This is my favorite part, I think, although you make so many good points here that it was hard to pick just one:<br /><br />"I think it takes courage to raise a child correctly - to raise a child with love, and not fear. And I'm not ready yet. And I think it's equally courageous to admit your own limits, your own flaws, to make a jurisdiction over your own body and life, to think cautiously."Ameliahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03699159674142562562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-67026862293147306492011-01-22T03:56:16.284-07:002011-01-22T03:56:16.284-07:00This comment has been removed by a blog administrator.gravehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11321927175923904868noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-52918365788030461662011-01-21T18:33:31.078-07:002011-01-21T18:33:31.078-07:00Oh my gosh. So good! Can we blog together? You nai...Oh my gosh. So good! Can we blog together? You nailed it. Isn't it weird how obsessed other people are with women's bodies? I'm actually in a feminist theory class right now, and we're talking a lot about bodies, and the supposed "cult of motherhood." Technically speaking, women, historically and cross-culturally, have no attachment to their fetus until what used to be known as "quickening" (when they can feel it moving). Further, it's actually natural and instinctual for females (of all species) to kill or abandon their young to procure a better lifestyle for their existing or future offspring/families. Why is our society so obsessed with taking away women's agency when it comes to reproduction? Maybe because we would stop doing it until this world got its shit together? ;) haha, just an idea...Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-13057893028506830252011-01-09T21:51:17.389-07:002011-01-09T21:51:17.389-07:00"You begin to hate the term survivor, because..."You begin to hate the term survivor, because you think you survived nothing (I think I have "survived" nothing) - "survivor" implying triumph over the elements. You think, "No, I carry that shit with me everyday." There was no triumph"<br /><br />God, i could have written that myself. Thanks for sharing this with me on tumblr. <3Twehttp://fuckyeahfeminists.tumblr.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-90494146611771008542010-12-13T13:57:24.288-07:002010-12-13T13:57:24.288-07:00I think that the worst part of whatever trauma we ...I think that the worst part of whatever trauma we experience in our lives is that we're expected NOT to talk about it. Especially women. And especially if that trauma is sexual in nature. We're supposed to bury it deep down and never, ever talk about it. And if we do... then we are probably just seeking attention, which is probably how we got ourselves into "that situation" in the first place. For me, the most therapeutic thing has always been open, honest dialogue with other women.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-86599072199143829432010-11-15T10:48:45.569-07:002010-11-15T10:48:45.569-07:00Sounds like you are definitely in a place in life ...Sounds like you are definitely in a place in life where you are redefining yourself, redefining how you live in the world. It definitely can be a lonely time, one where you lose more friends than you gain. But that loss is temporary, as you find your right people who love you for you - both the you of right now and the you that you are becoming.<br /><br />XOAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-77925559938327209632010-11-12T10:32:33.130-07:002010-11-12T10:32:33.130-07:00Hey, this is brilliant writing. I'm working ha...Hey, this is brilliant writing. I'm working hard everyday to carve my own environment as well. It is like trying pushing against a wall sometimes keeping my own "spine" and speaking, behaving from a place that is true to myself and not just replicating other's realities.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-21999636416011779282010-10-13T21:58:39.561-06:002010-10-13T21:58:39.561-06:00i voted for you on pepsi!! i think you have wonder...i voted for you on pepsi!! i think you have wonderful thoughts my dear!Louhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14752152997491992876noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-26347616930032688452010-10-01T10:11:22.124-06:002010-10-01T10:11:22.124-06:00"This attitude - that nothing is easier than ..."This attitude - that nothing is easier than to love - has continued to be the prevalent idea about love ins pite of the overwhelming evidence to the contrary. There is hardly any activity, any enterprise, which is started with such tremendous hopes and expectations, and yet, which fails so regularly, as love." <br /><br />"If I want to learn the art of loving, I must strive for objectivity in every situation, and become sensitive to the situations where I am not objective. I must try to see the difference between my picture of a person and his behavior, as it is narcissistically distorted, and the person's reality as it exists regardless of my interests, needs and fears." <br /><br />- Erich Fromm<br /><br />"When we feel deeply drawn to someone, we cathect with them; that is, we invest feelings or emotion in them. That process of investment wherein a loved one becomes important to us is called 'cathexis.' In his book Peck rightly emphasizes that most of us 'confuse cathecting with loving.' .... When we understand love as the will to nurture our own and another's spiritual growth, it becomes clear that we cannot claim to love if we are hurtful and abusive. Love and abuse cannot coexist. Abuse and neglect, are by definition, the opposites of nurturance and care."<br />- bell hooksVictoria Meredythehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17609708583015114207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-64163860662906484832010-10-01T07:36:21.746-06:002010-10-01T07:36:21.746-06:00You are so passionate. My biggest struggle is only...You are so passionate. My biggest struggle is only myself, when I'm overwhelmed, when I'm stressed, when I'm frustrated, it is me who makes those emotions. If I let myself 'breathe', if I hold myself, if I am kind and empathetic with myself, I find these emotions much less frightening and uncontrollable. Be kind to yourself, especially when life is unkind to you. "Be yourself, you're the only one who can do it right." Love you.Ginahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11734434388345947993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-824438400823945076.post-8656497227932948182010-10-01T04:44:54.475-06:002010-10-01T04:44:54.475-06:00this is why I think you shall accomplish so much. ...this is why I think you shall accomplish so much. :)Jess S.https://www.blogger.com/profile/07538075531295272306noreply@blogger.com